Radio-microphone-440x360It was recently interviewed on Shoreditch radio by a good friend, Edward Nelson, about my journey into the personal growth world and, more specifically, what it has taught me about living a purpose centred life.

I was honoured to have been asked to be a guest and it was an experience that I enjoyed immensely. This was my first radio interview and I was a little nervous, but delighted to get to talk about my story and the impact it has had on my life and work.

So this edition of Life Happens LIVE is a departure from the normal format. It is simply a conversation in which you will learn:

  • What diamonds, horse manure and nail polish have to do with the way we experience life
  • Why your inner wisdom is like a faint flute playing against the din of a big brass band
  • How to cultivate a space for listening to your authentic self
  • Why you are already an enlightened being
  • Why it took a personal crisis for me to embark on my own journey of self discovery

I would love to hear your comments, questions and feedback on the interview. If any of the topics we covered resonate with you, please drop a line in the comments section below.

My special guest for today’s ‘Living With Purpose’ interview is Colin Hiles, aka The Midlife Maverick’. Prepare to be inspired by his story!

colinSomeone once said’ “It turns out that happiness is about sacrifice. You have to sacrifice what isn’t important for what is.”

Colin is a shining example of someone who has taken courageous steps to overcome fear, make difficult decisions and risk everything in honour of living with purpose. In this interview he generously shares his experience, insight and wisdom for what it takes to recognise and answer your own calling.

Here is what you will learn:

  • How Colin went from being a health product salesman with low self-esteem to being the co-creator of a multi-million pound personal development business.
  • What a year on a small spanish island with no technology and more goats than people taught him about real success and fulfilment.
  • What a film starring Clint Eastwood has to do with finding your purpose (can you guess which one it is?)
  • What you should definitely have printed on your next business card.
  • How Colin has turned his experiences into a six step process that has helped thousands of people to live a life they feel great about (and raised bucket loads of cash for charitable causes along the way)

If this conversation inspires you, please click like it, tweet, +1 and share your comments below.

Welcome to the premier video of the ‘Living With Purpose’ interview series!

mikeWhen exploring what our own unique purpose in the world is we are often inspired by other people’s stories. This series of interviews is intended to showcase the journeys of courageous individuals who have committed themselves to answering their calling and who are now living and working true to their purpose.

Through listening to these conversations my deepest wish is that you will resonate with some the philosophies and principles you hear and be inspired to try them out for yourself.

My first guest is Michael Teape, founder of Teape Training International. Mike is not only a close personal friend of mine, but someone who I have admired and looked up to for many years. His passion and skill for coaching in business is first class and is fuelled by his authentic desire to be of service and make a real positive difference to all he works with.

If you enjoy this conversation, please share the love by liking this page and popping a comment in the box below.

Life PurposeThank you so much if you were able to complete the Life Purpose Survey I send out recently. I am delighted with the quality and quantity of the responses and the stories shared.

While it would be impractical to share all of the individual responses here, I have analysed all of them collectively and have identified the common recurring themes.

Below you can see the resulting themes for each of the survey questions listed in order of their popularity (most popular first). Some of the themes have an equal weighting.

I had an inkling that the issue of ‘life purpose’ would be interesting to you, but I admit even I was surprised by the level of passion you shared in this area. It has really helped me to get clear on where I will focus my attention this year to add the right kind of value for you.

In the coming weeks I will be announcing some VERY cool news about a new ‘sister’ website I am launching to run alongside Life Happens. It is dedicated to providing you with everything you need to identify, clarify and live from your unique and authentic life purpose (and how to deal those annoying obstacles too!)

 

On a scale of 1 – 10 how connected do you currently feel to a sense of purpose in your life? (1 = No sense of purpose whatsoever / 10 = Totally connected to a life purpose)

 

10 – 4.7 %

9 – 11.6 %

8 – 18.6 %

7 – 18.6 %

6 – 25.6 %

5 – 7.0 %

4 – 9.3 %

3 – 2.3 %

2 – 0.0 %

1 – 2.3%             Average = 6.65 %

What is your personal definition of what it means to live a life of purpose?

1 = Making a positive contribution to the world / lives of others

2 = To continually grow and develop on a personal / spiritual level

3 = To know your values and live true to them

4 = To have goals / be goal driven / have a clear vision

5 = To do work that is fulfilling and enjoyable

5 = Finding a comfortable balance across all areas of life

6 = Choosing to have a positive attitude

6 = Having an opportunity to utilise your talents

7 = Remembering to be present and enjoy the moment

7 = Focusing on gratitude

7 = Always being involved in something that inspires you

What challenges or obstacles prevent you from having a greater sense of purpose in life, or prevent you from living in a more purposeful way?

1 = Negative thinking / self-doubt / self-worth

2 = “I don’t know what I want” / Too many distractions to focus on purpose

3 = Fear of change / worrying about the future

4 = Lack of money / feeling tied to my current salary

4 = Lack of time / too busy

5 = Putting other’s needs before my own

5 = Lack of energy

6 = “I’m in the wrong environment to do what I want to do.”

7 = Depression / low moods

7 = Don’t have any connection with like minded people

If you could ask for some expert guidance, in any area, that would help you to live with a greater sense of life purpose, what would ask?

1 = How to find something that inspires me / get clarity on what my life purpose is

1 = Strategies for managing my mindset (attitude) / Nurturing my mind, body and spirit

2 = How to build self-confidence / overcome fear

3 = Time management and prioritising what is important / making space for more purpose in my life

4 = How to stay motivated

4 = How to stop worrying about the future

5 = How to maintain healthy, balanced relationships

5 = How to be more assertive

5 = How to get paid for doing work I love

6 = How to make more money

With Love

Paul

feeling lostIt is easy for us to occasionally bump up against the experience of feeling lost in life. In this video I’ll share with you a personal encounter with feeling lost and a useful exercise for finding your way back home again.

Transcript of video

Hi, this is Paul from Life-Happens.co.uk. Welcome to the video blog. The topic for today is the joy of feeling lost. And it’s been inspired by an experience that I had earlier this week that I wanted to share with you in the hope that this is something that you can resonate with or that you can connect to, in some way. And it revolves around that feeling of being a little bit lost… inside yourself.

Now I don’t know if this has ever happened to you, I should imagine that it probably has at one point or another. But the other night, I had a bit of a sleepless one. Now I don’t know specifically what triggered it, but what I do know is that I lay in bed for hours. With what I would describe as an uncomfortable feeling of feeling a little bit lost inside myself – like somehow I wasn’t quite on the path that I thought I should be on. I didn’t quite know what to do about it.

Now this isn’t something that happens to me a lot. It doesn’t happen all the time. If you know me or know anything about me then you’d probably know that I’m quite a purpose driven guy. I’ve usually got my head buried in some endeavor or project that I am inspired by and that helps to keep me moving forward. And hopefully in the process, I’m putting a little bit of good out in the world.

So, the feeling of being lost in my life isn’t something that I have to deal with every day. Although every once in a while, I will experience what you might call a dark night of the soul. And it’s where my ego kicks in and it starts to call into question the value and validity of what I’m up to in the world. And it starts to pose some very challenging questions like: “Is that good enough?”, “Is that what you should be doing?”, “Shouldn’t you be doing something else?” and “Who are you to be doing what you are doing?”

Now, like I said, this isn’t something that happens all the time, and I know that it’s happened often enough though, for me to recognize that it will just pass. If I let it be, it will just pass. But, the next day, luckily I had a free day where I’ve not much to do. So, I did something that I’ve learned can often help in situations like this for me. I jumped in the car and I went out for a drive out in the countryside with the soul intention of getting lost – physically and geographically. And the reason that I did that is because I’ve learned that the world is really good at holding up a mirror to our internal experience. It’s like whatever we’re feeling on the inside, what we tend to see around us are physical experiential metaphors that match the way that we’re feeling.

And, so I decided to experiment with that and see if there is something that I can learn. So, I jumped in the car and I went out for a drive in the Surrey countryside here in England. And after about an hour, I’d done it. I’d achieved the goal! I was completely and utterly lost. I had taken so many right turns and left turns down twisty windy country roads. Though, I couldn’t for the life of me work out the route that I had taken to get there. So at that moment of recognizing that I was lost, I stopped the car, I got out and had a look around.

Now, what I saw was stunning. I was quite high up in the Surrey hills, and I saw some of the most beautiful countryside that I’ve ever seen. Particularly in this country. And I remember thinking to myself in that moment, ‘do you know what? Sometimes being lost ain’t that bad.’

Because sometimes when you think about it, in order to be lost by definition: you must be experiencing something unfamiliar, or seeing something new for the first time. And in my book that’s not always such a bad thing. Because if we never experience anything unfamiliar then there’s a good chance that we’re not growing on a personal level. Now what we experience may not always be the most beautiful or the most comfortable thing, but the pure fact that it’s new and that we’re having to experience things in a new way, must in the long run be good for our personal growth if we’re willing to look at it in the right way.

So, after I had a look around, I jumped back in the car and I continued the journey – still didn’t know where I was and still didn’t know how I was going to get back. But after another hour, I came across a sign that was pointing toward something that again was very familiar to me: it was pointing towards the town in which I was born. Now, call me old-fashioned but in that moment there was something very poignant and significant about it. Probably because I was in that mindset of looking for a metaphor. And here I was being pointed in the direction of the place where it all began for me.

And I can’t really explain why but I experienced something just lift from me and in that moment I just knew what to do and I decided just to drive back to my home in London. And because I knew where I was, I went the quick and effective way. And on the way back, I was really connected with a sense of what I call renewal. And a reconnection to my innate well-being.

So, when I got back home, I was reflecting on the whole experience. And with that clarity that seemed to have returned, I was reminded of something that I believe to be quite truthful. And it’s that that feeling of being lost within ourselves, of being incomplete or not quite at home is a perspective. It’s a state of mind, but it’s one that’s based on a forgetting of the bigger truth about the way life really works – of who we really are in the world and our true nature. And it usually has a lot to do with listening to the story that are egos have created about the way that life is supposed to work. And of what a good life should look like and what we should be doing and what we shouldn’t be doing. And when that story doesn’t quite match up to the reality of how things actually are for us right now we can get that sense of feeling a little bit lost.

But also, that feeling of being at home within ourselves of being connected and the feeling of being complete – that’s also a perspective and it’s also a state of mind. But rather than it being based on a forgetting, it’s based on a remembering of the bigger truth about the way life really works of who we are and of our true nature. And it usually has a very little to do with the story that our egos have created for us. If anything it’s our ability to look through the ego and to connect to something much bigger and more truthful.  Now because we’re human, we’re really good at forgetting stuff like that. So every once in a while we’re bound to get that feeling of being lost, but I’d like to encourage you from now on, rather than being scared of getting lost is to embrace it and to look in the right direction to see what it might be teaching you about what you may have forgotten about the real truth of life.

You see, the alternative is if you’re scared of getting lost, then the chances are that you’ll organize your life in such a way that you’ll never want to leave the confines of familiarity. Which can be okay for a while but in the long term, isn’t that great for your sense of personal growth.

So, just in the same way that’s when we go out there and get lost in the real world we can either be scared of that or we can embrace it. And if you want to embrace it the best way of doing that is to change your definition of home. If you take the entire world and include that in your definition of home, if you take the entire universe which is the real source of where it all began for each of us, and include that within your definition of home, then no matter where you go, you can never be lost.

As long as you can feel the earth beneath your feet and the air on your skin you can only ever be home. So rather than being scared of getting lost, embrace it. And embrace it to the extent that you’re reminded that life isn’t something that happens to you, it’s something that is happening for you -moment by moment. And if you’re willing to keep showing up and make yourself available as a student of life, you’ll see what life is always trying to teach you is how to get back home.

So I hope you found that inspiring, or useful or that you can connect to that in some way. If you have then please drop a comment in the box down below or if you’re watching this on YouTube please give the video a ‘like’, but until next time, as always you have my very best wishes. Please take great care of yourself. Good bye for now.

 

 

In this episode Paul talks about why it is that we often resist our own success and what we can do to let inspiration be more of a guiding force in our lives. The secret is in the equation F = I – R !!!