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How To Stay Positive In Challenging Times

The way we think and feel moment by moment has a huge influence over the results we experience. Use this simple, easy to remember strategy to keep feeling at your best when you need it most. I am very excited to bring you the first in a brand new video series: “The Life Happens Little Lessons”. These are short, snappy personal growth and development tips and insights to keep you firmly on the path of success and happiness. In today’s […]

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Worry Less, Influence More

Do you worry too much? Do you wonder how to stop worrying, or at least worry less? Let’s take a look at the purpose of worry and a useful strategy for feeling more influential over your circumstances. “Don’t worry about the future; or worry, but know that worrying is as effective as trying to solve an algebra equation by chewing bubblegum.” Line from ‘Everybody’s Free (to Wear Sunscreen)’ by Baz Luhrmann One of the more enlightening ‘a-ha’ moments I’ve had […]

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Self-Love: 3 Ways To Love Yourself More

Whitney Houston sang, “Learning to love yourself is the greatest love of all.” But why is self-love so important? And why is it the hardest kind of love to master? “Loving yourself…does not mean being self-absorbed or narcissistic, or disregarding others. Rather it means welcoming yourself as the most honored guest in your own heart, a guest worthy of respect, a lovable companion.” – Margo Anand Imagine that you and I are standing face to face and I proudly tell […]

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Being Amazed: What’s Your Threshold?

In a world where the rate of technological advancement and scientific discovery is speeding up, it seems that our threshold for being amazed is getting higher and higher. “When it’s over, I want to say: all my life I was a bride married to amazement. I was the bridegroom, taking the world into my arms.”  ~ Mary Oliver If you could go back in time to 1990 and tell your younger self that in less than 20 years you’ll have this […]

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Life Purpose Survey – Results

Thank you so much if you were able to complete the Life Purpose Survey I send out recently. I am delighted with the quality and quantity of the responses and the stories shared. While it would be impractical to share all of the individual responses here, I have analysed all of them collectively and have identified the common recurring themes. Below you can see the resulting themes for each of the survey questions listed in order of their popularity (most […]

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Relationships Are An Inside Job

I received an email this week from one of my lovely Australian subscribers in response to a “Life Happens LIVE” podcast episode called “Opening Up To New Thinking”. She told me how it had given her new insight about the way we experience our thinking and, in particular, a new understanding of how we experience other people. Inspired by this feedback, today I want to expand a little on the tangible difference we can all make to our own lives […]

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Overcoming Resistance and Following Your Inspiration

Most of us have two lives. The life we live, and the unlived life within us. Between the two, stands Resistance. ~ Steven Pressfield (Author – The War of Art) Imagine what your life would be like if you had followed through on every inspired idea you have ever had. I don’t mean those half-baked ideas like proposing a naked office day or taking a chainsaw to the roof of your car because you can’t quite afford that convertible yet! […]

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Peace Of Mind For Busy People: Mindfulness

“Do not confuse peace of mind with spaced-out insensitivity. A truly peaceful mind is very sensitive, very aware.” – Tenzin Gyatso (14th Dalai Lama) We all want peace of mind. But how do you cultivate peace of mind in midst of a hectic day? In this post I’ll give you some strategies for remaining calm and centred, even when the world around you seems to be in a spin. The busier and more chaotic our lives get the more likely […]

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Unconditioned Self – Discover Your True Identity

“Everyone in this world shares the same innate source of wisdom, but it is hidden by the tangle of our own misguided thoughts.” – Sydney Banks Beyond your ego there is an unconditioned self that is your true identity. One of the coolest things about Transformative Coaching is that it encourages us peek behind the façade of our own story telling. That is, when we are willing loosen our grip a little and stop holding on so tightly to the […]

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The Beauty Of Life – Being Open To Seeing It

“Everything has beauty, but not everyone sees it.” – Confucius The beauty of life can been found everywhere (even in the most expected places) but you have to open to seeing it. In this post I’ll share with you the source of where beauty comes from, and why it is relevant to living a happy and inspired life. They say that beauty is in the eye of the beholder, which is a notion that has always intrigued me greatly. We all […]

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ARTICLE: Cutting Out The Happiness Middleman

“Happiness is a butterfly which, when pursued, is always beyond our grasp, but which, if you sit down quietly, may alight upon you.” – Nathaniel Hawthorne, 1804-1864 A concept I often hear from people who are struggling to connect to a greater sense of happiness in their lives, is that they believe they would be much happier if it weren’t for the actions and attitudes of other people. This covers a multitude of sins. For some it is the frustration of other […]

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ARTICLE: The Only Place You Need To Get To

“Don’t let a mad world tell you that success is anything other than a successful present moment.” – Eckhart Tolle When I moved to London several years ago I didn’t really know the place at all. I’d visited a few times with my family for the odd touristy day out but still didn’t know my way around. So when it came to living and working here I knew I had quite a bit of learning to do. I remember one […]

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Fear Of Making Bad Decisions – How To Overcome It

“Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new.” – Albert Einstein Many people have a fear of making bad decisions and overcoming it becomes a lot easier when you redefine what a decision actually is. In this post I’ll share with you a mindset for having the confidence to decide. How many times in your life have you put off doing something because you couldn’t decide the best course of action to take? I’ve known people […]

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ARTICLE: Just Letting Go

“In the end these things matter most: How well did you love? How fully did you love? How deeply did you learn to let go?” – The Buddha Isn’t it funny how it is possible to think back to a younger version of you and feel as though that was a completely different person? You might remember some of the thoughts or opinions you used to vigorously uphold that are polar opposites of what you believe in now. Perhaps this […]

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ARTICLE: Emotional Bank Accounts

“A real friend is one who walks in when the rest of the world walks out.” – Walter Winchell For most us the ability to live a wonderful life is dramatically enhanced when we can get the balance right in several important areas. * We want to do work that is meaningful and satisfying (contribution and reward) * We want to have fun and take part in activities that interest us (recreation and adventure) * We want to live comfortably […]

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The Purpose Of Living A Life Of Purpose

“Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive; because what the world needs is people who have come alive.” – Howard Thurman I’ve always known that living a life of purpose feels good but I often wondered about what is the purpose of having a purpose! After years of honing my definition, here is my take on what it is all about. If you have been receiving my coaching tips for a while you may remember […]

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ARTICLE: The ‘Well Wishing’ Principle

“Envy is the art of counting the other fellow’s blessings instead of your own.” – Harold Coffin Living in London I get to travel on public transport A LOT, and for someone in my line of work that provides a fabulous opportunity to observe the quirkiness of human nature in action. It is never my intention to deliberately earwig on other people’s conversations, but sometimes when you’re on a packed tube (with a stray armpit in your face) it is […]

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ARTICLE: Your Big Experiment

“The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again expecting a different result.” – Albert Einstein Over the years it has become apparent to me that for many people on a journey of personal development or spiritual path, the subject of science often doesn’t sit very well. It is as if taking a scientific approach to living in the world somehow devalues the ‘art’ of living and finding true fulfillment. Perhaps this is due to the association […]

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ARTICLE: Writing Yourself Happy

“Writing is an exploration. You start from nothing and learn as you go.” – E. L. Doctorow I have written and spoken many times about strategies for creating authentic happiness, and the recurring theme has always been “Happiness is not something you can pursue; it is who you are”. Experiencing the kind of lasting happiness that can maximise your overall satisfaction with life is less about accumulating and more about acknowledging and allowing; to make a genuine connection with that […]

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ARTICLE: The Cinema Inside Your Head

“The world is what you think it is.” – Serge Kahili King Humour me for a moment and just imagine that you’re in a cinema. Everything around you is dark apart from the screen that’s showing the latest blockbuster suspense thriller. You’re sat there wide-eyed, holding a piece of popcorn in front of your open mouth as if it’s frozen in time. It’s just getting to the really juicy bit – the girl is being followed, but by who? And […]

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ARTICLE: How To Do Optimism

“I can’t change the direction of the wind, but I can adjust my sails to always reach my destination.” – Jimmy Dean When I was a kid I would imagine that I could make things happen just by thinking about them. For example, if my best friend was coming over to play I’d look out for him from my bedroom window and try to control the exact moment he would come cycling around the corner into my road (I was […]

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ARTICLE: Reversing Problems

“The significant problems we face cannot be solved at the same level of thinking we were at when we created them.” – Albert Einstein Have you ever noticed how much easier it is to spot something that’s wrong as opposed to everything else that is working well? I’m sure we can all think of people in our lives who have a special gift for shining a light on just about every broken thing there is to notice in the world […]

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ARTICLE: The Freedom Formula

“Everything can be taken from a man but one thing; the last of the human freedoms – to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way” Victor Frankl One of the things I love most about coaching others is when they really get that creating more of what they want in their lives doesn’t have to be complicated. Nine times out of ten those light bulb moments follow on from a simple realisation that […]

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ARTICLE: The Antidote To Fear

“Death is not the biggest fear we have; our biggest fear is taking the risk to be alive – the risk to be alive and express what we really are.” – Don Miguel Ruiz Wouldn’t it be wonderful have a fool proof strategy for getting unstuck and moving forward again whenever you find yourself in the grip of fear? I once had an almost obsessive desire to discover ‘the magic formula’ for overcoming fear in any situation. Not just so […]

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ARTICLE: The Art Of Having A Bad Day

“Faith is the art of holding on to things your reason has once accepted in spite of your changing moods.” – C.S.Lewis A lot of personal development teachers and motivational guru’s like to drill home that the key to success is ‘State Management’, i.e. your ability to manipulate your physical and emotional being so that you are constantly aligned with success producing thoughts and actions. In fact, much of what I do in my own work involves helping people understand […]

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ARTICLE: The Important 40% Of Happiness

“Action may not always bring happiness, but there is no happiness without action.” – Benjamin Disraeli I believe we are living in very exciting times when it comes to our understanding of what makes us truly happy in the long term. Up until relatively recently (well, about 10 years ago actually) the general perception of the personal development and self-growth movement was pretty much split down the middle. One half of the camp embraced the theory that “we are what […]

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ARTICLE: The Game Of Joy

“Joy is a net of love in which you can catch souls.” – Mother Teresa There are two things that have always astounded me about us Human Beings. The first is just how complex we can be with our thinking and behaviour. The second is that, despite all our complexities, what drives us at a fundamental level is remarkably simple: The desire to be happy. Extensive research from the field of Positive Psychology has produced evidence for what many great […]

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ARTICLE: The Ultimate Time Management Principle

“Things which matter most must never be at the mercy of things which matter least.” – Johann Wolfgang Goethe We all have the same 24 hours in everyday, and the difference that makes the difference for each of us is how we choose to fill them. The most productive people I have ever met have not necessarily been harder working than everyone else; they just have a skill for appropriately focusing their efforts according to the time they have at […]

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ARTICLE: Building Supportive Beliefs

“Life is what you think it is, and gives you what you dare to dream it will.” – Anon One aspect of the human condition that I find fascinating is the way that we overcome the challenges in our lives tends to be consistent with how easy or difficult we first imagine those challenges to be. We pre-empt the obstacles that are likely to present difficulties, and run a mental rehearsal of our ability to deal with them. Of course, […]

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ARTICLE: Mastering The Present Moment

“Life is now. There was never a time when your life was not now, nor will there ever be.” – Eckhart Tolle What do you think of when you think about your future? And when you do think about it, which I’m sure you do from time to time, how you feel? Do you feel happy, excited, and joyous? Or do you feel uninspired, a bit nervous, or even scared? The reason I ask is because, to an overwhelming degree, […]

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ARTICLE: Radical Self-Honesty (Unconscious Commitments)

“It is discouraging to think how many people are shocked by honesty and how few by deceit.” – Noel Coward The inspiration for this tip came after I had the great fortune to find out about the work of Gay and Kathlyn Hendricks. Together they run The Hendricks Institute, a hugely successful learning center that teaches core skills for conscious living. Whilst much of the work they do is based around strengthening relationships, the area that I was particularly struck with is […]

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ARTICLE: Questions That Move You Forward

“To be on a quest is nothing more or less than to become an asker of questions.” – Sam Keen I think we all get that questions are a really powerful communication tool when we?re dealing with others, but the impact of the questions we ask ourselves usually gets overlooked, and often this can be the cause of many unnecessary difficulties in our lives. Every moment of every day we are shaping our own experience of life through our perceptual […]

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ARTICLE: How To Get Motivated

There is one type request that I get more than any other and that is to provide strategies for generating and maintaining motivation, some people call this ‘self-discipline’. It’s actually not that common for people to ask me for step-by-step instructions on what they need do to get a task completed. You see, most often people already know what they need to do to achieve a particular goal. They know which actions are likely to lead them towards the outcome […]

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ARTICLE: Learning From Your Future Self

There seems to be an unwritten rule that states if you are going to be taken seriously in the field of personal development as a therapist, coach or trainer, then you have to have been completely screwed up at least once in your life! Well, I’m not convinced that this is absolutely necessary but, to be on the safe, you might be glad to know that, yes, life hasn’t always been as rosy for me as it is right now. […]

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ARTICLE: How Do You Do Happiness

In one of my personal development workshops I get my students to close their eyes and imagine, in vivid detail, one of their happiest memories, and to fully re-living it in that moment. It is amazing to witness the instant transformation in their facial expressions and body language as their nervous systems kick back into happy mode. I then ask them what actually changed in the outside world while they were doing that. Of course the answer is nothing, but […]